tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2856183675984986909.post4626786458541565247..comments2023-03-22T06:35:59.493-06:00Comments on The Jane Project 2.6: A Postcard from The Single (Mom) LifeJane Doehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08202046951428685531noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2856183675984986909.post-23612279997746044412011-07-22T18:24:27.972-05:002011-07-22T18:24:27.972-05:00Single mom:
My hat is so off to you. I can so easi...Single mom:<br />My hat is so off to you. I can so easily take all that you say to heart though I have yet (and I emphasize the word yet) have yet had to do it. I agree completely, one hundred percent and whole heartedly (can I get more in agreement?) that it is so completely unfair for one of the partners to be able to go have a life while the other does EVERYTHING. I don't know why I understand that so well and feel it so strongly since neither I, nor my mother, have had to do it, but I truly do. I am working hard right now to maintain a "relationship" with my husband so we BOTH stay in the house. Really it's more like so "neither one leaves" because that's what really happens, right? Someone LEAVES. No one should be allowed to leave. The marriage can break up, dreams and common goals can die, any reminder that two people once even knew each other, much less loved each other can disappear into thin air, but the bodies CAN NOT LEAVE. Not until the work load becomes a one person work load and I'm pretty sure that would be when the kids leave the house. Wouldn't you agree? <br />I so feel for you and your post illicits a few negative emotions within me but it is so well written that it also illicits laughter and understanding. I can so relate, somehow, to your struggle of handling things alone that you were never ever supposed to handle alone. It's so (expletive) unfair!!! I find myself wanting to be there for you and help you out!!! All I can say is it sounds like you're doing a great job. Hang in!!!! The time we have raising our kids, relative to life as a whole, is so short - HANG IN. I know it's hard to see in the day to day struggle - but keep it in mind. Maybe there will be a miracle and money will fall from the sky and you'll be able to stay home more, or maybe you'll simply get through and in the meantime, you will see what a great relationship you have built with your children because you love them so much and WANT to be with them. It will all be worth while!! You watch and see.Chrishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18045139175385023591noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2856183675984986909.post-59608935758134610152011-06-14T10:19:57.941-05:002011-06-14T10:19:57.941-05:00You're doing a good job, please hear that and ...You're doing a good job, please hear that and repeat it to yourself again and again. I relate to your feelings with your 5 year old. Mine doesn't seem to listen anymore either 99% of the time and my heart breaks when she asks why I can't stay home with her, baby sister and daddy like last summmer *maternity leave*. I hate being the provider in our family, I wish I could be the stay-home-parent instead of my husband. It sucks and I'm not as grateful as I should be for his role at stay-home-daddy and how hard it is for him too.Not So Anonymous Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09124270202359921566noreply@blogger.com