When it comes to abusive relationships, I think I understand the psychology of the victim, and how the abuser ends up psychologically cornering the victim into not leaving (or delaying leaving).
What I don't understand at all is the psychology of the abuser. Maybe I'm missing the piece of my brain that such behavior appeals to, but I can't understand why abusers do what they do, especially the escalation process.
So, understanding that much of the Jane community has lived and/or researched such things, I address this question to you:
Can someone explain or offer insights into the psychology of the abuser in abusive relationships?