Words for the Co-Dependent Set

Megan DaGata
What did I do? What can I do? How can I help? What else do you need? Where am I? Ahhh . . . The life of the co-dependent soul. Yes, you are an angel from heaven and an addicts dream.

WAKE the F--- UP!

I don't know how else to put this. I am not going to sugar-coat it for you . . . And I don't think I can. If you are in a relationship that you feel you are doing 90% of the work, then you need to check out your priorities. Ask yourself a few questions for a change . . . How am I? Do I like myself? Do I have enough self respect to leave? Do I make myself happy being in this relationship?

I am a person like anyone with my own set of experiences, goals, and plans . . . And man, did they get messed up when I forgot to think about myself. When you forget yourself and concern your world with the life of another, you get lost. You lose direction. You find a way to hide when you are right there in the middle of the action. You become a door mat, in other words you cease to be you.

As I walk through my day, and I see someone in the shoes I have worn, I want to grab them and shake them. I want to rattle them to their very core and get them to step up to life! Although they are spending their life trying to make someone else happy, their needs are not being met. Emotionally they depend on the other person's happiness to complete them.


The world is neither fair or forgiving. God is fair and God is forgiving. The world is harsh, cruel, a little sadistic, and will kick you in the pants, but it won't fill your heart with joy.

This is just a little note to all my co-dependent sisters (and brothers) out there. Find you! Be You! If your mate, mother, father, brother or sister doesn't like you very much for it now, one day they will love you for it. One day they will understand. One day your heart will have only joy, and no sorrow. No agony of defeat. One day you will whisper . . . Peace be still . . . and you will feel filled . . .


  1. Too true, and a reminder that it's important to continue tackling something that can be very difficult!!

  2. Thanks for the reminder that we are responsible for our own happiness and the only way to make life better is to do better for ourselves and make it better! Im sending this to my friend who I think could use the reminder herself right now. <3 <3

  3. Although what is being said in this post is true, we need to be sure we don't start judging those who have made a choice. To us it may look like giving up themselves (and in a lot of cases it certainly could be) but in some cases it could simply be a true desire to help. Ok, ok, before I get too much shit - I know the people we are talking about who give up their lives entirely to try to make someone else happy but I hear a little bit of quick judgement in the previous posts for confirmation of our decisions to make ourselves happy. Don't get me wrong, please, I am totally for and beleive that life should be happy. And I love being happy. I mean, it's the American way, right? Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness and all that? I beleive in life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness with all of my soul and being. But I also beleive in beleiving that people do set their lives up to get what they need. Maybe it's time for a change for a few but let's not be too hard on those that are not quite there yet and be there for them. Afterall, the pursuit of happiness is an individual journey though sometimes we are able to share it with someone who is on the same course in their pursuit. But all in all, it's an individual journy. vor, is it not?