WAKE the F--- UP!
I don't know how else to put this. I am not going to sugar-coat it for you . . . And I don't think I can. If you are in a relationship that you feel you are doing 90% of the work, then you need to check out your priorities. Ask yourself a few questions for a change . . . How am I? Do I like myself? Do I have enough self respect to leave? Do I make myself happy being in this relationship?
I am a person like anyone with my own set of experiences, goals, and plans . . . And man, did they get messed up when I forgot to think about myself. When you forget yourself and concern your world with the life of another, you get lost. You lose direction. You find a way to hide when you are right there in the middle of the action. You become a door mat, in other words you cease to be you.
As I walk through my day, and I see someone in the shoes I have worn, I want to grab them and shake them. I want to rattle them to their very core and get them to step up to life! Although they are spending their life trying to make someone else happy, their needs are not being met. Emotionally they depend on the other person's happiness to complete them.
NO ONE ELSE CARES IF YOU'RE HAPPY OR NOT!
The world is neither fair or forgiving. God is fair and God is forgiving. The world is harsh, cruel, a little sadistic, and will kick you in the pants, but it won't fill your heart with joy.
This is just a little note to all my co-dependent sisters (and brothers) out there. Find you! Be You! If your mate, mother, father, brother or sister doesn't like you very much for it now, one day they will love you for it. One day they will understand. One day your heart will have only joy, and no sorrow. No agony of defeat. One day you will whisper . . . Peace be still . . . and you will feel filled . . .