Oh Jane,What to say? Where to start? I'm so glad you decided to reach out and tell that to someone. I can't imagine the pain you must feeling. Because I don't know the particulars I can't comment much beyond that. Just know that we are here and that we hear you, that you have a voice.
What a brave thing to bare to all. Like Mel said, I cann't imagine the pain of what your going thru and am sad that you are.
Clearly there's something wrong with your relationship. Please, talk to us. Tell us more. We will listen, we will comment, we will try to help even if only by letting you know that you are heard.